Skip to content

#cathdate: Playing hard to get.

July 6, 2011

We are postponing this week’s chat and will reschedule. Thanks for your patience and understanding.

#Cathdate is a gathering on Twitter for single Catholics. Participants and guests type answers to questions from the host, using the social media site Twitter.

#Cathdate is a forum for single Catholics to discuss the fun and frustrations of dating.

#Cathdate is hosted by Anthony Buono, founder of Ave Maria Singles, who has been working with single Catholics since 1998, and by Ave Maria Singles.

Playing hard to get.
This week’s topics are based on our last #cathdate chat. If you have something to add, please tweet @AveMariaSingles.

Invite your friends!

Q1: Playing hard to get vs. preserving your mystery.
Q2: How can I recover from being hurt in a relationship?

Confused about what a Twitter chat is?
A Twitter chat is a fun, fast-moving, informal discussion on Twitter.

Our chat’s hashtag is #cathdate. Include that in your tweets so they’ll show up in the chat.
If you use Tweetdeck, you can create a column that follows the #cathdate hashtag. Or, use a tool like TweetChat or TweetGrid, which will automatically filter the chat and add the hashtag to your own tweets.

Some tips from another Twitter chat.

5 Comments leave one →
  1. MaryAlice Wolf permalink
    July 10, 2011 11:05 am

    It is not an “either / or” issue — nor an adversarial issue … by “playing hard to get” versus “preserving your [a lady’s] mystery.” Playing hard to get helps to preserve a lady’s mystery.

    From my (a lady’s) perspective and upbringing, it was always impressed upon me that I should “play hard to get” in order to see how interested he REALLY is in me — his actions speaking volumes louder than his words. Is he REALLY interested in providing for me and my safety, his wanting to protect my femininity, his wanting to help protect my virtues, and ultimately helping me get to Heaven.

    Columbus, Ohio

  2. Mel permalink
    July 12, 2011 11:42 am

    Playing hard to get is UNWISE and IMMATURE! Period. An individual entering this mentality is not yet ready for relationship let alone a happy marriage. Relationships are for mature and wise people. When a man behaves like that with me, try to ignore me just because I humbled myself and dropped my hanky, I quickly know that he lacks maturity and wisdom. When a woman drops her hanky to a man, that does not mean that she is in love with him, it simply means that she is taking a risk to test the waters and in this process God will reveal to her if he is the right or the wrong person. It takes so much humility and kindness to send someone a note or drop one’s hanky.

    Simultaneously, I have a great respect for men who drops their hanky for a woman. It is not just the man who needs to wait for the woman to show interest in him. It goes both ways.

    Healthy Relationships are for mature and wise folks. Period!

  3. Maria permalink
    July 18, 2011 2:57 pm

    Member #33673, from Brazil, 46 years old
    In my point of view a man should pursue a woman. I would not feel comfortable to make the first move…

  4. Mel permalink
    July 27, 2011 9:21 pm

    dropping a hanky equals smiling at someone. it does not mean that the woman is pursuing a man or harassing him. A man needs some encouragement. It simply means that she is taking a chance or a risk on him.

    Biblically speaking, there is nothing wrong with either a woman encourages a man or the man encourages a woman. God created both equally.

    So both men and women are encouraged to drop their hanky even if they get rejected.

    Remember that our Lord Jesus Christ got rejected. Hence we should not take ourselves so seriously and follow our Master’s suit..


  1. #Cathdate: August 9 « The Help Mate

Anything to add?

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: