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In loving memory of Daniel Yetman

October 6, 2011
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On September 27, Paula wrote to us to share the sad news of her husband’s passing, and the beautiful story of their love.  With her permission, we are honored to share her words with you here.

Dear Ave Maria Singles;

April 20, 2001 my husband Daniel wrote to me for the first time on this website. Our first date was May 5, 2001 and we entered into the sacrament of marriage June 8, 2002. On June 12, 2002 our marriage was blessed by John Paul II. We dedicated our home to Our Lord and Our Lady and spent our nine years of marriage trying to do God’s will in our lives, growing in our faith and sharing it with friends, family and strangers.
Many times in the car on the way home from Saturday morning Mass we would talk about growing old together and being the 80 year old couple at daily mass we would hope to one day become. We truly had a blessed marriage. Our plans of growing old together were not in God’s plan. On December 28, 2010 Dan was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. He fought it valiantly and we would unite our different crosses, his of great suffering and mine of a wife watching her husband suffer to Christ’s cross on Calvery. Daniel had people praying for his healing all over the world. For 3 months after his diagnosis he would receive at least one if not two mass cards for healing a day in the mail. We know God heard many of those prayers because we experienced beautiful gifts and miracles of strength and courage but not the miracle we both wanted his healing.

July 20, 2011 while in the hospital something ruptured in his stomach the doctors could not repair and Daniel was told he had 2 days to live. He survived 3 days in the hospital and lived more in those final days than some people live in a lifetime. There were lines of people waiting in the corridor to say good bye to him and Daniel graciously received every one of them and almost as if inspired by Christ himself he had words of healing and hope for each person. It truly was a miracle.

Those last three days I shared my husband with everyone who came to his bed side. I silently prayed for our Lady to prepare him and make him presentable to her son. Daniel had lost close to 70 pounds and was a mere shadow of his former self. When I saw him at the funeral home I could not believe my eyes Daniel’s ruddy complexion and a fullness in his face had returned. I asked the funeral director what he had done to prepare Daniel and he said nothing that was the way he came home from the hospital.

Dan was not a saint in life but the same can be said for all of us. He desired to be a saint and grow in his faith. But I firmly believe with all my heart he died a saint and was received by Our Lady and she prepared him for her Son.

I have included my words spoken at his gravesite, it will help you understand the true miracle and beauty of his death. Ave Maria Singles was kind enough to allow me to retrieve his letters to me when we first met. When you enter into the sacrament of marriage as God desires you to and as I believe Daniel and I did you truly become one. I know because a piece of my heart is in heaven with him and nothing on this earth can fill that space he captured in my heart. God has a plan I must wait for it to unfold.

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July 28, 2011

God’s Ways are not our ways.
We ask why was Daniel taken so soon when so many people loved him and needed him? Why did he have to have such a horrible disease and have to suffer?

As his wife I walked this road to Calvary and Daniel’s cross was a heavy one however he chose to carry it and not run from it. From the moment he was diagnosed he accepted this cross with dignity and at times he struggled with the heavy burden of it. But he united it to Christ and his faith gave him courage and strength to persevere.

We all have our favorite memory of Daniel he touched the hearts of so many. He was an amazing person. He turned his life around when he rediscovered his faith in Jesus Christ and he never looked back.

He would tell you in the throes of his alcoholism he cried out to God to fill the empty shell of a man he had become, and he felt the finger of God touch his heart and he was changed in an instant and never drank again. He was gifted in the understanding of his faith and could eloquently explain it to anyone.

However, Daniel LIVED his faith every day – his love for the Eucharist fed him spiritually and physically.
He imparted his faith to his daughters by raising them in the Catholic Church and even on his hospital bed, he reinforced his wish for them to stay close to their faith.
The last 72 hours of his life would crush an ordinary man’s spirit, not Daniel. The doctors told him there was nothing they could do and for the next 72 hours, he made himself available to his friends and family, reconciling and helping each one with words they needed to hear and filling us with laughter. For those of you blessed to see him, cherish and reverence his advice.
What you need to hear and remember most about Daniel is his beautiful, amazing death. He was not afraid because he knew something greater awaited him.
About 4 hours before he died, he refused a shot of pain medicine.

He said he wanted the pain.
When he realized he was still getting it intravenously, unbeknownst to those with him, he pulled out his IV tube.

He spent 2 hours in utter agony, and we didn’t understand because we thought he was getting pain medicine through his IV tube. At 4 a.m. after 2 hours of sheer agony, the nurse discovered he had pulled out his port and was not getting any medicine.

He wanted to unite his suffering to Christ in the last hours of his life. He offered himself as a victim soul to accept all suffering with love so the ones he loved would be saved.

At 4:37 a.m. he died peacefully, and after we watched his heart stop beating, an immense smile came over his face that seemed to get bigger and bigger, and his face became radiant. I knew he was telling us he had met Jesus and Mary and was being ushered home.

Daniel lived his faith in every respect, and his work now begins. We have a powerful intercessor. Rest in peace, my beloved – I await the day I can see you again. Paula

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4 Comments leave one →
  1. Ingrid Christensen permalink
    October 7, 2011 9:12 am

    Amazing, thank you for sharing such a profound and personal experience. God bless you. Ingrid

  2. Raymond Ng permalink
    October 9, 2011 12:45 am

    I am from the Philippines.

    That’s a wonderful testimony. GOD bless.

  3. Clare permalink
    October 9, 2011 7:15 am

    What an immensely touching and inspirational testimony. It brought tears to my eyes. RIP Daniel and God Bless Paula and all who loved him in life and loved him into eternity.

  4. Joseph permalink
    October 11, 2011 4:52 am

    Beautiful

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